The 2024 presidential election motivated me to have a birthday do-over

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At the Pittsburgh Ballet Theater Pointe in Time Emerald Gala Today marks a week since my birthday.  Its occurrence is a tremendous blessing. Because all around us are reminders about the fragility of life. To that end, my brother, who always makes a point to celebrate me, took me to the Pittsburgh Ballet Theater's Pointe in Time Emerald Gala on November 2d. That was the beginning of my birthday celebrations. And then, on my birthday itself, I got a bit of a surprise... My actual birthday was tough. It was Election Day. And, I spent the day working polls as a part of an election protection effort. My efforts were designed to protect all voters. However, deep in my heart I love my AKA sister, Kamala Harris and I hoped for her historic victory. Then, much to my chagrin and despite my efforts—and those of thousands more—she lost. In my estimation, that loss was one of the greatest setbacks in human dignity in my lifetime.  The country elected a felon and self-proclaimed, racist, ableis
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Who's good to you might not be best for you...

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I have learned a great deal lately from my experiences and those of women who are close to me. Below are some of my reflections:

One of the hardest love lessons to learn is that someone can be a good person, a good boyfriend even, but still not be right for you. In other words, you don't have to villify him in order to validate your decision. To believe otherwise negates your ability to make sound decisions.

You may decide that you're better off without him. However, when you're lying in your bed alone, you may question your wisdom. You may think about his good qualities and conclude that your recognition of his goodness means that you must have made a mistake. However, when commenting about a friend's situation, my boyfriend commented, "It's not about who's "nice", it's about who's best for a lifetime. Sometimes you have to make tough decisions."

The thing is, you have the right to create the life that you want to lead. Creating that life however, requires a great deal of strength. Sometimes you must have the courage to walk away from a good person in order to find a great relationship.

Unfortunately, I have also learned that it is much easier to describe courage than to demonstrate it...
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