When I was in college, I felt so isolated when I was struggling in calculus. I felt entirely alone until I spoke with a friend at Notre Dame who was also struggling. While I didn't wish her any harm, her struggles helped to encourage me. I realized that it was OK to experience challenges. I also learned that everything was going to be alright.
It's amazing that I am still learning those lessons. My sometimes boyfriend and I recently called it quits. The reasons are numerous. After a three year relationship, you break up for every reason and for no reason. Most succinctly, we broke up because "sometimes" became less frequent; and the disappointment began to outweigh the joy.
Initially, I internalized it and remained silent. I was reluctant to share my disappointment with anyone. I didn't want to admit to having yet another failed relationship. Eventually, I confided in some friends. That has made all of the difference.
During "girl talk", I learned that my friends have relationship problems too--even those with the "perfect" relationships. It turns out that we're all struggling. Maybe that's the nature of all relationships. Maybe my friends and I are dysfunctional... The good thing is that despite of the relationship problems, we still believe in love and we are all still trying.
As they say, breaking up is hard to do. And initially it was really tough. However, sharing my story has helped immensely. Once again, my friends have taught me that everything is going to be alright.
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