Last weekend, like many Americans, I saw “He’s Just Not That Into You”. It reminded me of the many times in my life when I’ve gotten it wrong. Indeed, last year I spent too much time involved with someone who was as complicated as he was intense. I willingly allowed myself to be duped. I wasn't mislead. I made a decision.
Throughout our interactions, I knew intuitively that he wasn’t that into me. He wanted me, but not to the extent that wanted. I knew that his declarations of love were mainly admissions of confusion. I understood on a very fundamental level that his distance was intentional. Girls know the truth. I knew the truth. However, I simply didn’t care. I was into him and for a while that was the only thing that mattered.
Eventually, if we’re lucky, what we truly want begins to matter more. Fortunately, I was lucky. And, I made some changes...
Watching the movie reminded me of the times when I have gotten it right--when what I wanted and what the guy wanted were aligned. Perhaps this Valentine’s Day I’ll get the opportunity to get it right again. Here’s hoping!
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