Celebrating Black Maternal Health Week #BMHW25

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Mom and three kids Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three, working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. Black Maternal Health Week April 11-17, 2025 I am a Black mom to three wonderful children. I was blessed to have three successful births. While I am an attorney, my third delivery highlighted the potential risks that occur when a physician fails to listen to the birthing person. Initially, I chalked it up to the physician involved and limited it to my personal birthing experience. Then, I learned that I was not special. Overwhelmingly, Black women experience higher rates of birth trauma, birthing complications and negative birth outcomes.  These statistics are what lead to the creation of ...
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Lessons for Working Moms: Nobody Can Replace You!

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"More stay-at-home mothers give themselves better marks as parents than do mothers who work outside the home..." Survey Highlights Conflicts for Working Mothers

As a working mom I appreciate that life is full of compromises. I work so that I can provide for my daughter. And I feel guilty about being away. Tonight I came to a realization working isn't the problem. It is the time that I spend away from my daughter that causes me conflict.

When did work start consuming me instead of being a way to make a living???


For the most part I enjoy working. My work is significant. I am good at it. Also, my work enriches me in many ways. I actually don't think that I am wired to be a stay-at-home mom (SAHM). I know me. In order to make me feel good about being a SAHM I would need to have a staff. Don't judge me.

Being a working mother does present challenges. Today I realized that although I don't resent working I regret that I spend so much time away from my daughter every day. Work seems to get the best of me. The nanny gets the best of her. When I get home we are on borrowed time. How much can we fit in before bedtime???

I try to make the evening special. And she tolerates me until she gets too tired.

Sometimes in the evenings we both seem to dig deep. Somehow, in our borrowed time, we find a way to connect. We share a snack. We share a laugh. We share that special mommy and baby time that nobody can replace. And I realize that I don't need to feel guilty because every day, in the best way that I know how, I am her mom. And the great thing about it is, the baby knows it AND she loves me!

http://www.nytimes.com/2009/10/01/us/01census.html

(Stay tuned about my comments about the "Mommy Wars" in future posts!)

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