Celebrating Black Maternal Health Week #BMHW25

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Mom and three kids Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three, working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. Black Maternal Health Week April 11-17, 2025 I am a Black mom to three wonderful children. I was blessed to have three successful births. While I am an attorney, my third delivery highlighted the potential risks that occur when a physician fails to listen to the birthing person. Initially, I chalked it up to the physician involved and limited it to my personal birthing experience. Then, I learned that I was not special. Overwhelmingly, Black women experience higher rates of birth trauma, birthing complications and negative birth outcomes.  These statistics are what lead to the creation of ...
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A Peek Into the Life of a Working Mom: The Difference Between Mothers and Fathers

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"Most mothers would be exhausted if they had the time to realize it..."-Chaton Turner

 I have said many times I love fathers and my husband included. Like he likes to say, he does, more than “90% of the people who have a penis”. The funny thing is, I believe him. He has been known to change diapers, give baths and get our toddler ready for school. He has participated in school projects, attended parent-teacher conferences and has a private language he shares with our daughter. By all accounts, he’s a great dad. That said, he is not me.

Sometimes fathers get a break.


I have come to believe that the biggest complaint that mothers have with fathers is that they are not us.  Most great dads that I know have times when they just crash. They have been working long hours at work or on a home improvement project and their bodies just give out in an exhausted heap.

An exhausted dad

I’m not mad at them. I understand. Bodies have their limits.  Andre has been working around the clock trying to get our new house renovated while working his full time job.  He has been working really hard and he is tired.

That said, mothers like me get tired too.  However, unless we're hospitalized, we don't generally get a break. We are constantly taking care of children, washing clothes and cleaning the kitchen. When we are not doing those things, we're thinking about doing them.  That doesn't included our work responsibilities. Being a mom means never truly getting a moment of rest. Think about that...

Dads are wonderful, but they are not moms


As great as dads are, unless they are single dads and are forced to do more, they are generally co-pilots not pilots.  They do not have the responsibility of being in charge of the home.  There is an infinite difference between managing and helping out.  “Managers” think about the job constantly.  “Helpers” do their part and stop. They even expect gratitude because they did you a favor. 


Like I said at the beginning, I LOVE dads.  At times though, I’m a little jealous.

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