A Working Mom's Secret to Success on Valentine's Day: Manage Expectations...

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Lady celebrating Valentine's Day at Eddie V's "To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance." - Oscar Wilde  Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three, working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. The roots of Valentine’s Day roots go back to St. Valentine, a priest in the early Christian Church known for his compassion and commitment to love. He was a defender of faith, hope, and kindness, reminding us that love is not just a feeling—it’s an action. And, this year I have learned that being free on Valentine's Day is better than living a lie. Valentine's Day, like Christmas, comes every year. However, unlike Christmas, Valentine's Day is about romantic love an...
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Working moms sometimes have to shake off negative thoughts and comments

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"Haters wanna hate... You just have to shake it off!" Taylor Swift

I don't often quote Taylor Swift on this blog because she's not a mom and her music isn't something that necessarily resonates with my readers. However, several years ago, I listened to "Shake It Off" every day for like a year. Our daughter loved the song and it made getting ready for the day much easier, so why not listen to it, right?! And please, my "woke" friends and family, don't write to me about Taylor's alleged cultural insensitivity and other issues. Y'all were not volunteering to come to my house and help me manage the morning routine!

When People Insult You, Pretend Like You are Made of Teflon


I quote Taylor today though because her song inspired me yesterday. I met my day hearing some insulting comments made about me in my professional capacity. Although they didn't ruin my day, they did make me reflect. They made me grateful that I have a support system outside of my office that both grounds me and lifts me up. They made me grateful that I work with people who value my contributions and respect me. They made me grateful for so many of my blessings because the person who said them is in a rather tight spot. They also reminded me not to take anything personally that is done by other people. I learned this several years ago by reading The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. (That book is life changing--seriously.)

This morning I was reminded of the importance of keeping perspective. The sun came out this morning. The Today Show was on. And water was still wet. My point is, nothing is permanent. So, don't let anything get you down for long. And if a hater appears and insults you, you got to remember to "SHAKE IT OFF"! (I'm doing a shimmy right now for effect!)

And although I hope to have a smooth sailing 2019, I am grateful for this reminder at the beginning of the year.




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