One Secret to a Working Mom Success: Minimize Expenses

Following Instagram posts can make you feel like other moms are either made of money or have sugar daddies funding their lifestyles. I can assure you. I have neither. There is nobody funneling money into my household except for me. And because I was an economics major and my dad was a banker, I am keenly aware of cash flow, assets and liabilities, and expenditures. Still, sometimes, I forget how expensive life can be. It's not because I lied about having a sugar daddy or have a trust fund.  It is because I am frugal. Indeed, being conscious of expenditures is integrated into my lifestyle.  I know that it is gauche to discuss money and yet, I feel compelled to share some thoughts.

Working moms sometimes have to shake off negative thoughts and comments



"Haters wanna hate... You just have to shake it off!" Taylor Swift

I don't often quote Taylor Swift on this blog because she's not a mom and her music isn't something that necessarily resonates with my readers. However, several years ago, I listened to "Shake It Off" every day for like a year. Our daughter loved the song and it made getting ready for the day much easier, so why not listen to it, right?! And please, my "woke" friends and family, don't write to me about Taylor's alleged cultural insensitivity and other issues. Y'all were not volunteering to come to my house and help me manage the morning routine!

When People Insult You, Pretend Like You are Made of Teflon


I quote Taylor today though because her song inspired me yesterday. I met my day hearing some insulting comments made about me in my professional capacity. Although they didn't ruin my day, they did make me reflect. They made me grateful that I have a support system outside of my office that both grounds me and lifts me up. They made me grateful that I work with people who value my contributions and respect me. They made me grateful for so many of my blessings because the person who said them is in a rather tight spot. They also reminded me not to take anything personally that is done by other people. I learned this several years ago by reading The Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz. (That book is life changing--seriously.)

This morning I was reminded of the importance of keeping perspective. The sun came out this morning. The Today Show was on. And water was still wet. My point is, nothing is permanent. So, don't let anything get you down for long. And if a hater appears and insults you, you got to remember to "SHAKE IT OFF"! (I'm doing a shimmy right now for effect!)

And although I hope to have a smooth sailing 2019, I am grateful for this reminder at the beginning of the year.




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