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“One of the conflicts inherent in having choice is that we all make different ones. There is always an opportunity cost, and I don't know any woman who feels comfortable with all her decisions. As a result, we inadvertently hold that discomfort against those who remind us of the path not taken. Guilt and insecurity make us second-guess ourselves and, in turn, resent one another.' ”― Lean In: Women, Work, and the Will to Lead
Being a working mom and feeling guilty go hand in hand. Some of the guilt is imposed by others. However, a lot of it is internal. Some of the guilt stems from our desire to be everything to our kids and our inability to achieve this goal. I've matured in my working mom journey to the point where guilt isn't at the top of my mind anymore. It doesn't mean that I don't feel a pang here and there. What it means is that Three kids in, I've learned to effectively manage it. Also, I have the luxury of choosing quality childcare. Accordingly, I am not worried about my kids while I am at work. I have the blessed assurance that they are in good hands.
That said, I understand the struggle. And when it is your first kid, it is very real. So, for those deep in that struggle, I have included a few posts below that show you from whence I came...
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Jan 8, 2015 ... I
think working moms of small children might love weekends even more than
college coeds. We work all week trying to remember not to feel guilty that
it's the quality of time spent with children that matters not the quantity of
the time. Still there are those days when we feel terrible because we
have missed some milestone, we had to go to work when our children were sick,
or we have been judged by the endless people who seem to judge us for working
even if they do so silently.
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Oct 3, 2014 ... Last
night, my daughter was sick and barely slept. She was covered in red blotches
and became increasingly uncomfortable. When she finally went to bed she was
still up for hours. She kept screaming "Itchy Owy! Itchy Owy!" over
and over again. This morning she was irritable and wanted her mommy. However,
her mother works…
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Jun 19, 2013 ... “It
plagues me. I feel intensely guilty for working … You have to be able to
provide for your kids. But I feel like it’s a weird modern phenomenon that
you always feel guilty for it.” --Melissa McCarthy, actress, mom to two
girls under 6
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