Celebrating Black Maternal Health Week #BMHW25

Mom and three kids Greetings from Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania! Things have been busy. I am still a working mom of three, working full time who is trying to make a difference. I do a lot of things and try to be present so that I can learn from them. I share them on this blog so that we can learn together. Below are some thoughts, hacks, and/or lessons that I have learned from navigating my world. Black Maternal Health Week April 11-17, 2025 I am a Black mom to three wonderful children. I was blessed to have three successful births. While I am an attorney, my third delivery highlighted the potential risks that occur when a physician fails to listen to the birthing person. Initially, I chalked it up to the physician involved and limited it to my personal birthing experience. Then, I learned that I was not special. Overwhelmingly, Black women experience higher rates of birth trauma, birthing complications and negative birth outcomes.  These statistics are what lead to the creation of ...

Family Chaos Can Be Cured with Ice Cream


" You can't buy happiness, but you can buy ice cream and that is pretty much the same thing." — Unknown.
There are many moments throughout the day where my kids are fussing, cussing, and running around. The cussing doesn't involve actual curse words because they're little, but includes things like, "STOP IT!!!" "You're being mean!" and the classic, "WAH!!!" 

Those moments are numerous and fill my home with the cacophony of their voices and intense feelings. The bickering can be really frustrating. Sometimes, one will try to get me to choose sides because he or she is confident in his/her "rightness". I can't choose sides of course. Doing so would be like asking me to choose between having a right or left arm--each is equally loved and essential.

Then, when all hope for peace seems gone, they unite around a simple pleasure--a game, a funny moment, or a sweet treat. I don't know about your house, but here at mi casa, ice cream can solve most sources of unhappiness. 
Injured? "Here have some ice cream." Someone hurt your feelings? "Ice cream." Sad for no explicable reason? "How about some ice cream?"

I know that this is like my third ice cream related post of the summer. However, the stress of COVID19 has me seeking out ways to improve our moods and simple pleasures like ice cream, naps, and sunsets have become my favorites.  (In all candor, I also enjoy "adult beverages"!)

How are you managing during these very stressful times? 

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